Sunday, November 09, 2014

I watched The Real Housewives of Atlanta tonight and pretty much enjoyed the show.  I don't know why but I like Nene.  I think it is wonderfully how she has grown-up on the show and were showing herself in a better way.  She is not cussing and acting a fool.  She is just trying to take all the advantages and opportunities she is getting.  I don't blame her.  Just a few updates:

Nene:  Nene is preparing to perform or to host in Las Vegas  at Cirque du Soleil's Zumanity.  She is discussing that she doesn't want to be nude or show her skin.  She discusses the fact that she will work and do whatever it takes, but she is easy to work with, and she said people would attest to that fact.

Kenya: Still does not understand why or how she provoked  Porsha. She said it was just fun for her. Is bullying people really fun for the person who is, doing the bullying? It's sure not fun for the person who is being bullied.  I guess if she didn't go for Nene, there would be no need for her. She thinks everyone came after her and did not like her.  She doesn't think she is the problem.

Cynthia is the type of pretty girl without a brain.  Does she have a mind of her own?  I always taught my daughter to be a leader and not a follower.  When the wind shifts, Cynthia does too.  That's bad to see a grown woman who will not think on her own.  Does she really thinks Kenya is her friend?  She was all on Kenya side and did not think she was wrong for bullying Porsha. The next show will show how she ran and spilled the beans by blabbing her mouth.  Cynthia did this after Apollo told Peter something she couldn't wait to tell her new best friend who couldn't wait to cut Phaedra with it. It's about the man name Chocolate who Apollo accused Phaedra of dating while being married to him.

Porshe looked great at her modeling shoot.  She seems more confident than she was before. She will not apologize to Kenya for beating her butt because Kenya came for her.

Kandi will continue to be a cool person who is charming with everyone.  She won't side with any one person, except her mamma. She is busy preparing for Todd's eighteen-year-old daughter's arrival. The newlyweds have a discussion about giving kids too much, and Kandi thinks children should be happy so why not give them what they want as a reward.  Todd doesn't want his daughter getting everything and wants her to work for what she gets.

Tonight the show centered around  Nene.  It wasn't ghetto fabulous, but we know it is coming.  The show didn't introduce the two new girls tonight. You can believe when they show up they are going for the Queen.  After all, if they don't knock her off the throne, they will be back in the unemployment line.  I give this show a B+.  Nene is still running everything, and that's alright by me.  

Saturday, October 11, 2014

Putting Your Best Foot Forward While Interviewing

I received a phone call from an author who had blown a television interview. Apparently after 30 plus takes they told her that they would contact her later. She knew that they wouldn't. Not only could she not answer questions about her life, she froze and forgot what her book was about. She was so upset because she realized that she lost a great opportunity to be seen by thousands of people. Plus, she felt that the host would never call her back and so far she was right.

I immediately contacted my publicist and asked her to take this author and two others through media training. The training we received was from  Media  by Sistrunk. The owner of the company Deborah gave us some valuable information. I have used some of the information from participating in the training, in this article.  Often when you are being interviewed you plan what you are going to say, but what is just as important is what you don’t say. Not only is it important to have good talking points and good verbal skills but you must also have great non-verbal skills. The ability to communicate both verbally and non-verbally is essential. Nonverbal communication is often referred to as body language and includes gestures, expressions and postures.

Here are some do’s and don’t to help you navigate through the interview.

· Maintain eye contact with the person who is interviewing you. Keeping eye contact is a sure sign to the interviewer that you are focused on what they are saying.
· Sit up straight and lean forward to show that you are interested in what the person is saying.
· Keep your hands folded on your lap or the arm of the chair when listening to the interviewer.
· Smile when appropriate.

Don’t pick your hands.
Don’t slouch or slide down in your chair.
Don’t tap your fingers nervously.
Don’t fiddle with objects on the desk or near you.
Don’t ignore the interviewer by looking away from them.

Finally, know your subject matter. It is easy to forget information, but you can lessen your chance of this happening by practicing in front of a mirror. Maybe practice does not make perfect all the time, as said, but at least it will make the interview better. Practice these tips and you’ll appear as a confident and assured person while putting your best foot forward.

previously posted

Tuesday, September 30, 2014

The Path from Pain to Purpose

I've been going through a lot of thinking about what is my purpose and wondering if I am doing what God planned for me to do. But mostly, I've wanted to know how do I know if I'm working in my purpose.  I asked the question earlier in the year on one of my Facebook statuses how do you know what your purpose is in life. I've bought books and have been reading the Bible but still I felt lost. Several days ago I downloaded one of my favorite Christian author newest non-fiction book.  I had read her previous non-fiction book, I Shall Not Die: Living A Psalm 118:17 Existence.  From this book, I realized that I couldn't complain, and how truly important it is to have faith in God.  Now I reading, The Path From Pain to Purpose: Living A Romans 8:28 Existence (The Life Series), and already I feel like I know what God's purpose is for me. If you're going through something, you should never waver in your faith.  There are times we become afraid, and fearful if we hold on to God and have faith in Him, He will provide. Another thing, I love the way she explains why it is okay to ask God questions about things. Many of us have been instructed to not question God,  but the way she breaks it down, makes perfect sense that we can talk to Him about things without blaming or badgering.  Check the book out!

Sunday, September 28, 2014

Phaedra Parks is not Allowing Anyone to Stop her Flow.

Phaedra Parks of the "The Real Housewives of Atlanta Show" is doing her thing going around promoting her book, "Secrets of the Southern Belle."  Even though, she has struggled and suffered the loss of her husband to the penal institution, she is still representing her interests by traveling and mingling with readers.  For those people who are putting her down, discouraging others to buy her book, and who just don't like her, she continues to move right along.  I'm sure that pisses off her distractors.  For a person like Phaedra, people talking negative about her and her brand probably just give her the motivation to persevere.  She continues to move right along, and she is looking glamorous doing it.  Her latest book tour stop was in Fort Worth, Texas at the Dock Bookshop.  Her fans came out in full force.

Check out her book, Secrets of the Southern Belle: How to Be Nice, Work Hard, Look Pretty, Have Fun, and Never Have an Off Moment.


Pictures from Dock Bookshop

Thursday, September 25, 2014

All About Nene Leakes

It took me a long time to jump on "The Real Housewives of Atlanta Show."  Finally, after the show had been on two seasons, and I had listened to people discuss the women I jumped on the bandwagon.  Now I can say I am a true diehard viewer.  Even though, I don't like women putting each other down, being negative and acting a fool, it's so addictive to watch a train wreck.  It's like you want to turn your head, but you cannot because you will miss something.  Even though, you believe something is not good for you, sometimes you partake just because you can.

One character and she is a popular one is  Nene Leakes.  I like her.  Let me tell you why.  She has taken sour lemons and made lemonade.  We hear that phrase all the time, but she put it into action so we could all see just how lemonade is made by demonstrating and handling her opportunities.

Nene Leakes is everywhere.  People blog about how much they hate her.  They blog to make money off her.  If they hate her, why talk about her? It's because no matter what folks say she is doing what many people would like to do.  She is finding job after job and working opportunities like a champion prize fighter.  What is there to hate about a successful working girl?  Gone Nene Leakes, keep spreading your talents around because clearly you have one that is noticeable and that my dear is making lemonade for your family and showing us all just how sweet it is to make it! Congratulations on all your success!

Thursday, September 11, 2014

Reviews Hurt: Taking Criticism and Using It Positively by Rose Jackson-Beavers

One of the hardest things for an author to hear is that the story they wrote wasn't good enough. We writers want to create a story everyone is talking about – the story that begs for a sequel. But what happens when the compliments don't come? How should a writer feel when the story told is not that interesting? Edward Booker, author of A Hole in My Heart, said, "I was upset.  How dare someone say something negative about my work?  It hurt.  I had never heard or read negative responses to my writing. Then one day, I read a review that said the book was good, but needed more editing.  That was surprising because I intentionally wrote some of the dialogues in the way folks spoke in the hood. So I was like why should I changed that! Then I was told in order to be taken serious as a writer, it was important to give my best. So I made the changes."
Reviews should help writers become better at their craft. If the reviews are valid, make sense and gives constructive criticism that's helpful, the author should take the information and use it positively. As a writer, you should want to be better and grow to be the best.  If readers can help you, why not listen?  After all, readers are the people who are buying your books. The information you receive may be extremely valuable and when not utilized may be just the thing stopping you from hitting the best seller's list.

The first time Edward received a negative review, he said he learned something very important, "I didn't handle criticism well. I blamed the reader for not understanding where I was coming from with my story. But I listened, learned from it and moved forward. I also had the story re-edited. That was hard."

It feels so good to get great reviews, but you cannot allow a critical one to stop you from doing something you love. There are many professions such as educators and doctors, who must update their skills regularly, because things change and nothing stay the same.  As a patient, you want your doctor to be the best and to give you the best service, so health professionals must stay relevant and keep improving their skills.  It's the same with authors; they must continue to take classes, and learn new things to write about to keep readers engaged in their books.  If you want readers to follow your work, and purchase your novels, you have to have an open mind, be willing to listen and  eager to become better at your craft. You have to present a good book.

The first time I received a bad review I called my friend who is a therapist.  I felt terrible.  She said, "Everyone is not going to like your work.  Get over yourself.  Remember even bad reviews get publicity." Another one of my friends who's a bestselling author reminded me that reviews are other people's opinions. Stop reading them if they affect you like that and keep writing and learning."

Reviews can be helpful to the author and to readers who are looking for a good book to read. Edward stated, "Reviews are valuable but when written in a spiteful way, will only make an author feel like you're a hater and not someone who is seriously giving valuable criticisms. When the information is real and helpful, then I'm willing to utilize the suggestions to change for the better."   As a writer, it is necessary to build up your courage and to strengthen your heart because you will need it through this journey of writing. Remember each step you take will make you better and stronger to reach your goals. Not all people will support you, but that's okay too. For every person who puts you down, rejects you or simply don't like your work, two more will pick you up.

Rose Jackson-Beavers is an author, publisher and freelance writer.  She lives in Florissant, MO, with her husband and daughter.